Kevin Costner was given an ultimatum after telling his second wife he did not want more children

While Kevin Costner is currently the father to seven children, he wasn’t always sure he wanted more children after fathering three with his first wife.

Kevin Costner was given an ultimatum. Either he wanted to have children with his girlfriend Christine Baumgartner or move on and stop wasting both of their time.

Everyone has their non-negotiables when it comes to a relationship. For some it’s honesty, while others put religion high on their list. And then there’s always the discussion of kids. Some people may know exactly what they want, while others may still be unsure.

This uncertainty or not agreeing with each other can tear couples apart. It caused a rift between Kevin Costner and his then-girlfriend Christine Baumgartner after the two couldn’t agree on whether or not they should have children together.

It wasn’t until Baumgartner gave Costner an ultimatum that he changed his opinion about wanting more kids.
Featureflash Photo Agency /
Costner met his first wife, Cindy Silva, in 1975 when the two were in college.

“She was beautiful, she was sweet, she was smarter than me. She represented everything about women that I like,” Costner told Closer Weekly about his first wife.

The two married three years after they met.

Silva gave birth to the couple’s first child, Annie in 1984. They welcomed Lily in 1986, and in 1988 the family grew again when Silva gave birth to a baby boy named Joe.

Costner loved being a father. He said “being a dad is the most important thing in my life.”

View this post on Instagram

A post shared by Kevin Costner & Modern West (@kevincostnermodernwest)

As his kids grew up, Costner continued with his career while Silva stayed at home taking care of their children.
However his time away put a strain on his marriage as rumors began to swirl that he was involved in an affair.

Silva put up with Costner’s “sexy roles” and the rumors, but in 1994 the couple announced, “After 16 years together, we are ending our marriage.”

Following his divorce, Costner began a relationship with Bridget Rooney. The couple had a son together in November 1996.

Two years later he met Christine Baumgartner, a handbag designer, for the second time – they first met a decade earlier while golfing. The two began dating in 1998.
“We exchanged numbers, and I told her that I would – did she mind if I called her in two weeks. I did not realize that was like an insult to a woman,” he told People in 2003.

Despite their 20-year age difference the couple got along except for one thing: kids. Baumgartner wanted children, but Costner, who was in his 40s when he met her, did not want anymore children.

“Fear kept me from marrying Christine,” he exclusively told Closer Weekly in June 2018. “[She] wanted a child, but I was afraid I couldn’t be an effective father.”

Costner said Baumgartner gave him an ultimatum.

“I’m going to wait for you, but not long. When you come to your senses, come back to me.”

Kevin Costner & Christine Baumgartner (Photo by Toni Anne Barson/WireImage)
The couple briefly split while Costner took his time to rethink his future.

Eventually the couple got back together.

“I woke up and thought, ‘Am I going to lose a beautiful woman who is willing to be with me to my very last breath because I am afraid to say yes to a child?’” he said at the time. “That’s all it took. Sometimes you learn the thing you’re most afraid of will save your life.”

The two married in 2004 on their property in Aspen, Colorado.

View this post on Instagram

A post shared by Kevin Costner & Modern West (@kevincostnermodernwest)

Three years later they welcomed their first child together. They added to their family with the addition of a son in 2009 and a daughter in 2010.

Although Costner was hesitant about having more children, he’s come to love being a father to his seven children.

“You get to play heroes in the movies, but there’s a moment in time where you’re just a father and you get to go home. I have played two roles in my life, one I get paid to do, which is the movies, and the other one is being a father, for which I’ll be rewarded my whole life.”
I think it’s extremely important that both people are onboard with whether or not they want to have children.

It’s great that Kevin Costner and Christine Baumgartner took some time away to think, and it seems like Costner made the right decision!

Please share this story on Facebook.

Related Posts

Brittney Griner’s Wife Cherelle Gives Grim Update On WNBA Star” “The crime and the punishment is disproportionate, she’s 100% not okay”

Brittney Griner’s wife Cherelle gave a grim update on the WNBA star after her appeal failed and it seems likely she will spend 8 years in the harsh conditions of…

Read more

Men Brutally Attack Cop — Patrol Car Door Opens, Fur Missile Launches

A group of thugs jumped a lone police officer on a back road and began viciously stabbing him with a box cutter. Thinking they had the upper hand, they were…

Read more

Roseanne Turns Down $4 Million Spot On The View: “I’d Punch Whoopi”

Roseanne Barr was down, nonetheless she undoubtedly wasn’t out. Her standup current on Fox was merely the tip of the iceberg. A Los Angeles jury handed her $208 million and…

Read more

As the song Alleluia began to play, the skater brought tears to the eyes of all of the judges as well as the audience… Take a look at it here…

Even though many people do not have the necessary skating talents, Taryn Jurgensen is unable to imagine a period in her life when she did not participate in figure skating….

Read more

Family Is Shocked When A Stranger Slammed This Note Down On Their Table During Dinner

Katie Leach was excited to get out of the house for a family dinner at Texas Roadhouse. The popular chain of eaters is known for its fun environment that caters…

Read more

Bus Passengers Lash Out at Boy Who Wouldn’t Give Up His Seat for Old Lady, Driver Defends Him — Story of the Day

Everyone on the bus yelled at a young boy who refused to give up his seat to an older woman. However, the complaints faded away a few minutes later after…

Read more

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *